by Erika Townsend
When you have unresolved issues in your relationship, every little problem seems to become the breaking point. While resolving issues used to bring peace, now they tend to signify impending doom. Sometimes we consciously know it is time to let go, while other times we just go through the motions. It’s like feeling nauseous on a rollercoaster and dreading getting off because you know you will get sick as soon as the ride stops. How do we maintain our composure when we feel our relationships are winding down?
Relationships are an investment. We invest our time, energy, feelings, bodies, and in good relationships, our spirits. When you are in love, it often takes precedence over all other relationships in our lives. It is hard to accept that sometimes things don’t work out and no one is to blame. Whether you are on the giving or receiving end of relationship sabotage, it is important that you are responsible for your part.
When you look in the mirror, it is not for fault finding. It is to reveal your true self and acknowledge your feelings. If there is honest communication, then sometimes wounds can begin the healing process. On the other hand, you may find that it is finally time to say goodbye. Either way, it is a new start that can only begin when you are ready. The sooner that you can come to terms with your own feelings, the sooner everyone involved can move towards what it is they are looking for.
While no one can ever change what is in our hearts, it may be beneficial to have someone help us to explore the depths of it. Couples counseling can help us to make sense of a relationship that is falling apart. Even if it is meant to end, counseling may help us to learn not to repeat some of the same mistakes in another relationship. Though things may not work out how you would like, there is an opportunity to find a relationship better than the one you may be getting out of. Every time you say goodbye, you will find yourself saying hello – either to a new mate, new lifestyle, or simply a new you.